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Help!! Please someone give me some advice?

oh kay so here's what's going on:
1.) i fall for this boy 2 years ago
2.) he was cheating on me with his "baby's momma"
3.) "baby's momma" goes psycho b***h on me
4.) "baby's momma" apologizes after weeks {{after i broke up with him}}
5.) "baby's momma" and i become 'best' friends
6.) my actual best friend becomes best friends with her too
7.) everything's good for awhile
8.) "baby's momma" goes psycho on me again b/c i'm talking to my NOW ex.
9.) i wanted to be friends with everyone
10.) {{back to the present.. sorta... 2 years later}} same thing back and forth with my ex, steven and ashley "baby's momma"
11.) i go and have fun with steven, putt putting for the first time ever, i had a great time
12.) despite the fact that he was hitting on me the whole time!
13.) {{1 month later}} ashley calls me up, guilt tripping me over the putt putting
14.) i tell her i hate her
15.) she tells me that she never will be my friend again.
16.) i say, basically, the same thing
17.) my best friend, melinda, got upset b/c steven was telling EVERYONE that we made out and all this crap
18.) no one believes my side of the story
19.) melinda and i have been the best of friends since before kindergarten....
20.) so it's really hurting me that she sees their side instead of mine...
21.) this was about a few weeks ago to a month ago...
22.) melinda doesn't smile like she used to... i can't get her to
23.) she doesn't laugh either
24.) just last night... she told me to go over to a party her sister and brother-in-law was throwing... and ashley was there
25.) we had both agreed to be nice to one another... i'd do anything ANYTHING to make her happy
26.) i went even though i said that i didn't want to....
27.) she basically stuck by ashley the whole time.... shows where her alliance is placed....
28.) there's other times she's shown it too
29.) i also lost someone i'm STILL in love with about two or three months ago b/c of all that 'steven and ashley' crap
30.) i hate them both... not melinda
31.) but ashley doesn't deserve to go through the bull**** steven puts her through... i told her that last night too...
32.) i felt bad... guilty
33.) but now i just feel.... lonely... left alone... alienated.... lost... in need of some help; mentally
34.) i'm still friends with the one i fell in love with...
35.) and two nights ago... he was so close to me... but i got scared and pushed myself away from him....
36.) i wanted to cry b/c i did it w/o thinking... and it seemed to have hurt him...
37.) i wouldn't have been so scared.. if he didn't have Liz {{the one he cheated on me with}}
38.) yea, he cheated... but only b/c people like steven and ashley kept putting the image in his head that i was cheating on him!
39.) i love him. i love melinda.
40.) i hate both ashley and steven.... i feel pity for ashley...
HELP!!!
{{if none of this made sense to you... just message me... i'll tell you the whole story instead of the cliff-notes}}

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Comments (2)
    • First off!!! REAL friends do not turn on you for ANYTHING regaurdless of who you love or want to be with. If they are not happy for you then they were never really your friend. As for Steven, he was not real mature either because a real man does not live by hear say but by action( Adults that are mature do not function that way in a relationship). Obviously he is VERY influeneced by other people and apparently needs to learn to be a leader and not a follower. When a man hears things he sits his lady down and confronts her about the concern by talking..NOT accusing but talking, because the way I see it he never gave you a fair chance to defend yourself with those accusations, that was not fair to you. Instead he took it upon himself to cheat on you by hear say.. that is pretty low and imature, or maybe it was just a excuse because thats what he really wanted to do and does not love you the same way that you feel about him. For the most part us women go on more emotion then men " Period". As for his x becomming your friend..That was not healthy for anyone! And there are reasons why people become our x, there are reasons WHY we left those people, that situation was a train wreck waiting to happen when you all became friends. Your young...and there is a WORLD full of people out there, Life is to short to waste it on people that dont respect you and your feelings. Don't waste your time on people that dont make you feel important and that dont support you in the way you want to feel about yourself. Good luck and I hope I helped you out! Geta new friends and a new boy friend and move on is what I would do myself.
      • Yousound like you need love and alot and are willing to take whatever...You need to love your self first...Meet someone new enjoy his company without anyone knowing him for amonth or two...when he meets your friends your relationship has started untouched by their cruelty or opinions...get to knowthe person first and how you really feel for them before throwing them to the dogs. Now you will know how he is before and after he meeets your friends and can compare reactions and situations. Maybe your friends are not so loyal either...Sometimes friends change... your friendship can get deeper or seperate from each other. all relationship goes either way. Do not give up..Talk less about your personal things with friends...
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