DEBUNKING MYTHS: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY
Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want
the
same satisfaction to last. No it won't.
Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good
relationship because
your
partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.
Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs
but
not all of them . There are just some things your husband can't give
you:
you're self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are
things you have to work on your own.
I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their
marriage. In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves. I've met
lots
of people who think they're bored with their marriages. And they
complain
to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ---- when in
truth,
they're really bored with life.
Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche,
your
calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.
MYTH 5 : IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON"T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE
ELSE
If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to
someone
else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.
One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I
met
this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a
pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her
hair
is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at
work."
Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy
marriage. But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery.
Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and
say,
'Home, boy, Home!' and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if
you
feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the
other
woman, it grows. But if you starve your attraction, it dies a
natural
death.
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