Many good people go through the same feelings. You have to come to peace with your love for her....separate it from your own dreams. You'll realize you've attached your dreams to her. When you separate them....you'll likely find you still love her. There is only peace in that love...just a sense of compassion, love and kindness toward her. It's the dreams you must let go of and mourn. They were YOUR dreams. Drop them in a trash can put the lid on it and walk away. Realize: No new dream can come while you hang onto a dream that wan't meant to be. It's hard to let go of our dreams....always is. Have faith that there is someone else intended for you. Life usually works out somehow in the long run.