johnrove

I am looking for love, maybe its you i am waiting for....

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The PEOPLE you
don't even NOTICE
KNOWS you WORTH...



and SOME PEOPLE
you CARE ABOUT the MOST
MAKES you FEEL
TRASHED....


-sad but true :((

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I can still remember yesterday

We were so in love in a special way

And knowing that you love me

Made me feel, oh, so right

But now I feel lost,

Don't know what to do

Each and everyday I think of you

Holdin' back the tears

I'm trying with all my might

Because you've gone and left me

Standin' all alone

And I know i've got to face

Tomorrow on my own

But baby

Before I let you go

I want to say I love you

I hope that you're listenin'

'coz it's true, baby, oh yeah

You'll be forever in my heart

And I know that no one else will do

So before I let you go

I want to say "i love you"

I wish that it could be

Just like before

I know I could've given you

So much more

Even though you know

I've given you all my love

I miss your smile, I miss your kiss

Each and everyday I reminisce

'coz baby it's you

That i'm always dreamin' of

Letting love go is never easy

But I love you so

That's why I set you free

I know someday, somehow

I'll find a way

To leave it all behind me

Guess it wasn't meant to be

But baby

Before I let you go

I want to say I love you

I hope that you're listenin'

'coz it's true, baby, oh yeah

You'll be forever in my heart

And I know that no one else will do

So before I let you go

I want to say...

So before I let you go

I want to say "i love you"

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Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want

the

same satisfaction to last. No it won't.


Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship because

your

partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.


Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs

but

not all of them . There are just some things your husband can't give

you:

you're self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are

things you have to work on your own.


I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their

marriage. In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves. I've met

lots

of people who think they're bored with their marriages. And they

complain

to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ---- when in

truth,

they're really bored with life.


Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche,

your

calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.


MYTH 5 : IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON"T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE


If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to

someone

else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.


One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I

met

this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a

pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her

hair

is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at

work."


Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy

marriage. But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery.


Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and

say,

'Home, boy, Home!' and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if

you

feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the

other

woman, it grows. But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural

death.

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No, you won't. Here are the consequences for believing this myth :


You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is

over

and whether you really loved one another in the first place.


Imagine the night of your honeymoon. Your new bride is sleeping. The

cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. You gaze at her

lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes. Her

beautiful

nose, her parted red lips. And all of a sudden, she snores.

"Ngggggggooork"


How do you react? Because it's your honeymoon, you say, 'How cute.'

Six

months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping.

And

the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. And you

hear her snore. "Ngggggoork. "


What do you say?


"Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!'


What has happened? The feelings have gone. Let me say this:That's

normal.

It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean your love is gone so don't

panic! You can make a decision to love the snoring boat.


You start blaming your partner for the loss of love

This is nutty.

But many people do it: when we don't feel in love, we think it's the

fault

of the other person. And so we fight him.

Again, we fall out of love because we're human beings.

It's nobody's fault.

The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins.


Let me explain.


This is the most important point I'm going to make. (I got this from

Scott Peck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)


Falling in love isn't love


Here's why. When you fall in love.....

a.       No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.

b.      No effort is required. Falling in love is like.... Well,

falling.

c.       No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by

the

love bug.


On the other hand, true love requires all three : Decision, effort and

lots

of hard work. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.


Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love.

When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it

----

that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting marriage.

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I'm sure you've had this experience before.

You are in a crowded room. You're surrounded by boring, noisy chatter

when,

suddenly, this gorgeous guy enters the door. Your eyes meet.

Instantly,

time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt. Except for this

attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a

giant

blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of

nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.


One week later, he's your boyfriend.   A few weeks later, you

discover

that your boyfriend's a pathological liar, buried in credit card debt,

borrows money from all his girlfriends (you're his eight in six

months).

Your mind says, 'Dump him' Your heart says, 'But it was love at first

sight!'  Here are the consequences ...


You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to

the

dark side of the relationship.


Six out of seven days, you're fighting with your boyfriend. But you

can't

give him up because you met each other in such a magical moment. Your

car

keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met, you smelled his

deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ......How can you not be

meant

for each other?


You become a love-at-first- sight junkie that you could miss out on the

'real thing'.


One intelligent woman told me, 'Bo, there's this guy who's courting

me.

He's okay. He's kind, he's responsible, he has a good job.......'


"I could hear a 'but' coming ," I said.

'but there are no sparks!" she bit her lip.

"No violin music playing in the background huh?none. When I see him,

the

background music I hear is lululalu-lalulalula lei..."


Listen. You don't need a magical first moment to meet our potential

husband. The important things are mature character, financial

responsibility, ability for commitment, compatible mission and

values..."


I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched

down the aisle, she whispered to me, "Do you hear the violin music, Bo?

It's loud and clear."


It doesn't have to be love at first sight.

In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends

who've known each other for years before they realize that they're good

marriage material.


What is love at first sight? Many times, it's lust at first sight. Or

infatuation at first sight. Don't give it too much weight.


Here's the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but

true

love takes a lifetime.

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Let me qualify.


This is such a tricky myth. Because love ----- as defined by the Bible

------ will conquer all. But love ------ as defined by glazed-eyed

lovers

----- will not.


If you believe in this myth, you might
do the following:


You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.


Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer

space as your boyfriend. Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid of

him. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle.

Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to

lace

his drink with poison.


But you won't --------- because you're in love. That's why there are

songs entitled, "you and me against the world"   Your bestbuds comment,

'but he's been jobless for the past three years!"  And you say, "He's

free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office. '(in other

words,

he's undisciplined, lazy bum.)


Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!' and

you

say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert)


Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs,
He's got needle marks all over

his

arm. And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'


You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will

change

him


The wedding doesn't transform anyone.  Even if three Popes officiate

the

wedding.  The person you'll march with into the church will be the same

person you'll march with out of the church. He doesn't change one bit.


In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.

If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish

after

the wedding. If he was hypercritical before he got married, he'll even

be

more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.


Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a

relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment and a

minimum level of compatibility.


Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission
in life. I

hear people say, 'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same

letter J.

My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July."


Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

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i told myself i won't share this story if i still didn't recover from it.....
i told myself i won't shed a tears anymore remembering/sharing this story.....


it was during my fourth year in high school.... graduation day is near....
im so proud that i belong to the topnotchers and will receive academic medals and recognitions...
ever since elementary... my parents have no problem in my schooling..... financially or morally....
i'm a consistent scholar...

but....

the day before the graduation day.... we discovered that mom has a third party.....
that night my father decided to return her home to grandma back to manila....

i attended my graduation day all alone.... no parents.... no siblings....
all the medals and certificate were useless... i dedicated it to them but none of them was there...
do you know what's the saddest part of that day?

part of the commencement program is to look for your parents.... hug and kiss them... and tell thank you for everything....

i saw all my classmates.... exchanging kisses and hugs with their family....

all i did is run to our classroom.... and cried silently....


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john_rove@yahoo.com

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YOU CAN NEVER OWN SOMETHING THAT WAS NEVER YOURS.....


SO LET'S STOP GRIPPING ON THINGS WE EXPECT TO LAST FOREVER!!!


......FOREVER IS A LIE......


EVERYTHING IS TRANSITORY.......


SO WHILE YOU HAVE SOMETHING IN YOUR HAND, PUT IN MIND THAT ITS JUST BORROWED....


SO THAT SOMEDAY, WHEN ITS GONE.....


IT WON'T TAKE ETERNITY JUST TO LET IT GO.!!!!


john_rove@yahoo.com

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No one falls in love by choice,
it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance,
it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance,
it is by CHOICE

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Dear Friend,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This a great love story which proves how powerful love is yet people still try to control what they really feel... It’s ok to be afraid to love but don’t be afraid ok? Pass it to the friend you love, pass it TODAY, not next day or next week, tomorrow may be too late... Let them know that you love them…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As I sat there on our English class, I stared at the girl next to me; I used to call that girl 'bestfriend'. I stare at her long silky hair as it bounces on her seat and wishes she was mine...but she didn’t notice me like that.... after the class. She walked after me... she borrowed notes she had missed d day b4, I handled them to her... and she said 'THANKS and give me a kiss on the CHEEKS...' I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want us just to be friends… but I am afraid… I didn’t know why?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sophomore years...., my phone rang... on the other hand... it was her.... she was mumbling and crying because her love that left her.... she asked me to come into their house and I did... in their house I sat on the sofa next to her... I stared at her dazzling eyes and wished she was mine… but she didn’t notice me like that and I knew it. After two bags of popcorns and one Drew Barrymore’s movie, I decided to go home.... before I leave... she come up to me and said... "THANKS for the care and comfort... and gave me a kiss on d cheeks..." I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want us just to be friends… but I am afraid… I didn’t know why?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Junior years... it was our PROM night the next day.... at the locker she come up to me and said... " Ei, I have no date tom.... could you be my date?", since I have no date too and we have a promise during sophomore years that if anyone of us have no date then we’ll be the partner of each other… During the prom night, as I dance with her, I stare at her soft, red lips… and wished she was mine… but she didn’t notice me like that and I knew it. After the prom, I accompany her home… before she enter  the gate she hugged and kissed me on the cheeks, and said “I have a great night” and enter their house. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want us just to be friends… but I am afraid… I didn’t know why?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was graduation day… I stare at the girl, who used to be my ‘bestfriend’, I watch her as her perfect body float in the stage to receive her diploma. How I wish she was mine but she didn’t notice me like that, and I knew it. After the graduation, she ran up to me… hugged me and gave me a kiss on the cheeks as she said, “Thanks for being my real bestfriend” and she was gone. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want us just to be friends… but I am afraid… I didn’t know why?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Years passed, months and days come like an autumn leaves… that time I sat on the pew of the church. That girl, who used to my ‘bestfriend’, is now getting married – to another man. I watch her as she exchange vow to her groom. Before she leave the church, she run up to me and hugged me tightly, “I’m glad you came” and gave me a kiss on the cheeks and she moved into her new life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now, I’m standing on the coffin of that girl, who used to be my ‘bestfriend’. I watched her coffin being buried as the priest read the diaries of that girl written during her high school life. This is what is written.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I stare at the boy who used to be my bestfriend. How I wish he was mine, but he didn’t notice me like that and I knew it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don’t want us just to be friends… but I am afraid… I didn’t know why? How I wish he would tell me.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I wish I did it… I told to myself and I cried…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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