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Let me qualify.


This is such a tricky myth. Because love ----- as defined by the Bible

------ will conquer all. But love ------ as defined by glazed-eyed

lovers

----- will not.


If you believe in this myth, you might
do the following:


You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.


Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer

space as your boyfriend. Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid of

him. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle.

Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to

lace

his drink with poison.


But you won't --------- because you're in love. That's why there are

songs entitled, "you and me against the world"   Your bestbuds comment,

'but he's been jobless for the past three years!"  And you say, "He's

free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office. '(in other

words,

he's undisciplined, lazy bum.)


Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!' and

you

say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert)


Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs,
He's got needle marks all over

his

arm. And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'


You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will

change

him


The wedding doesn't transform anyone.  Even if three Popes officiate

the

wedding.  The person you'll march with into the church will be the same

person you'll march with out of the church. He doesn't change one bit.


In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.

If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish

after

the wedding. If he was hypercritical before he got married, he'll even

be

more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.


Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a

relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment and a

minimum level of compatibility.


Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission
in life. I

hear people say, 'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same

letter J.

My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July."


Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

#myths, #love, #marriage