I think you need some time a part. Some days to think about everything. If he loves you, he would wait for you. Work out yourself if you are happy with him.. and if there is any point in being with him. As they say 'there are plenty more fish in the sea'.

this story sounds familiar.
just flip it around and thats what happened to me.
except i wasnt a jerk, she invited me over and told me to bring alcohol and a movie. after a while she told me she was pregnant and said she was going to drink away this baby. i had no idea. she had an abortion.

thanks and im sorry i could barely live with myself after the miscarriage i thought it was something wrong with me... but the girl who had an abortion im sorry theres something wrong with her she is crazy for purposefully killing her child just because she felt like it... im sorry again for your loss and i hope you have better luck next time...

just doit..........

well my advise is. this did happen to me but imma tell you what i did and everything got a whole lot better. when he comes back say i think we shouldnt have ne contact for a while. and he will back off giving you time to heal. after you heal and you think you wanna give it a try then do it but if he continues to hurt you over and over again leave that dumb ass. remember this "no guy is worth your tears and when you find someone tht is he wont make you cry" so blow it off. give eachother space space is always a good thing just dont let him slip under ya. if ne questions holla at me ill help im like relationship goddest.

you are right, he is a jerk. unfortunately, the world is full of them. go out and find somebody good who will respect you.

This is a sad situation. There is no right or wrong thing to do. The problem is this: This jerk is a person too. He is likely the product himself of an abusive childhood and the way he acts sounds impulsive and motivated by fear. He doesn't want to accept the responsibility of love but he may have a heart for you. I think he does. You may love him too and see something that others don't. You may see the little boy in him and see his heart and feel his pain. But you must recognize that you may not be able to fix him. You may love him and try and he may hurt you again and again.

If you love him and no other and you wish to try. You must feel his pain and go through hell with him. Perhaps this miscarriage got through to him and the sadness of it was felt by both. Maybe for the first time he felt regret with his actions and realized how much he loves you. So you must realize that even a liar has a heart somewhere inside. Do you love him enough that you will risk yourself and your own happiness to reach it. This is the hard choice that you must make.

But to disregard the man because he is a "Jerk" is also sad. Each person is a person and even the worst of us is deserving of someone who cares. We are all sinners in some way and each has flaws. Does he make you feel loved?
Will he stand by you when you have trouble?

No decision will be easy. This is the difficulty of caring about someone. But something about what you described sounded to me like it had hope in it. Maybe you've never done this....but go to church with him, hold hands and pray. The world is not about us alone...its about picking up others and trying the best we can.....even if we ourselves fail. If we have happiness and the people around us fall.....what do we really have?