About 8 months ago I started corresponding with someone on a dating site.  After a couple of months our friendship seemed to grow deeper.  We talked over the internet every day.  He said he lived in Florida but was moving to the UK for Christmas as he had bought a house not far from me.  We talked about our hopes, our dreams and then one day he told me that he was madly in love with me.  After about 4 months he asked if I could help with his removal expenses.  I was cautious, but then I believed that this man loved me.  So I sent him some money to help with his expenses.  About 2 weeks later he said he didnt want to continue with our relationship and I was absolutely devastated.  I couldnt understand how he could say that he still loved me but that he did not want to hear from me again. 

During the course of this relationship I was also corresponding with someone else who was just a good friend.  He too was looking for love and I was trying to help him find his Mrs Right.  Well he too thought he had found her and then she did the same thing to him.  For several weeks we both consoled each other through our pain.  The thing is that it wasnt until he said that he had found someone that I realised just how much he did mean to me, although I never told him.  Anyway, during our recent conversations he asked me if I could see us having a future together.  I have now fallen in love with this man, but I am worried that the same thing will happen.  He sends me loving text messages every day and says that I am the love that he has been searching for.  He is working away in Nigeria but wants to move back to the UK.  How can I forget what this other man did to me and regain my trust in human nature?  I am so afraid that if I help him to come to me that he will leave me too and I dont think I could cope with yet another rejection.  I feel so miserable being apart from him, but dread taking the steps I need to take to be with him.