My dad called and asked if i would write an affidavit for his case, to dismiss the arrears and maintenace order my mom has just won against him in court.
Obviously she used her manipulation tactics, which for some reason worked in court!
They tend to side with the women in these matters anyways..
I really should have put that affidavit in, during the court procedings when they were happening, but, okay here it is: my mom told me that she had to "stretch" a few things, like the fact that i was in school full time (which i'm not at all). And by doing this she was going to get us around $7000. She also told me to NOT talk to my dad whatsoever because he was fishing for information to help his case.
She didn't tell me that she was seeking payments from him for times that i was never even living with her, and which she wasn't supporting me (which is never, cause even when i did live with her there was never consistent food or clothes or even housing, we've had to stay in motels before).
And I'm sure she didn't want me talking to him because she knew that i would understand where he's comming from.
So my mom tells me before christmas, that she's won the case and she will send me a bit of money when she recieves it. Obviously she never sends money or bothers to call me. Then I get this email from my dad, saying that he's paid her quite a bit, and has been making monthly payments since October.
And I can't believe that she's actually keeping it away from me.
This is a woman who doesn't work but is fully capable. She lives off the government and her scams that she pulls off.
She's dumped her two elder kids into foster care on the basis that we are unmanagable and out of control children. Hello??? wouldn't that be her fault? and yes i argued with her all the time when i was living there at about age 13 and onwards, and that's because i was sticking up for myself which i had never done before. and it turned physical quite often, cops were called by neighbors, and her. she's called the cops on me many many times. she tells them that she's scared of me...
so i left voluntarily to go to foster care, and that was hell too. every home i was in was complete bullshit, these foster parents (at least the ones that i've come in contact with) DO NOT care whatsoever about their kids well-being. they wish the community to observe their "greatness" and "charitability" while collecting an extra pay cheque and, in one family i stayed with, slaves to do their house and garden work.
I swear i'm not exaggerating here, they had a chore list that was two pages long, this size print, that we were each supposed to complete each week, to their approval.
I told them to fuck off.
Okayy sorry, getting off track here.
Um, oh yea, after running away from two different homes, they gave me an independent living agreement (i was now 16) and placed in a group home, and that was at least more freedom and tolerable, but the bitch who ran it was crazy. and told my boyfriend's mother all kinds of horrible rumors about me. if you can believe it.  just told her straight complete lies about me. but everyone in that SUPER small community knows she's crazy, so it was all good, just pissed me off.
So when my boyfriend and I could finally leave that piece of shit island, and i told them i was leaving, I had to GO TO COURT to get my freedom from the ministry, because my social worker didn't think i was ready to be on my own.
It's been a huge struggle.
So now my baby brother (well he's like 10) is in a foster home, because...he's a problem child? does anyone see a pattern?

Okay done ranting about my mom. The truth is I love her, obviously, but she is the most manipulitave person i have ever met, and she plays a perfect victim.
So anyways i wrote an email to my dad's lawyer today, pretty much disputing things that my mom has said in court.
So i'm calling her a liar. and she fully doesn't know about it yet...which is really going to suck when that conversation happens.
And I made an apointment with the duty council here to explain my situation and figure out if i should seek support from both my parents. My dad says that he would make an agreement with me so we don't have to go to court.
My mom is definately going to see this as a move against her and that's not what i fucking want.
I just want what i'm entitled to and for everyone to play fair.
And this is why i feel bad, because I know my mom needs the money, she's not working, and she still has my little sister. and, by me saying that she's collected that money wrongfully, she will have to pay it back, and i really hope i'm not like destroying her..that would be fucked up.
I'm so torn about this.
Honestly it really shouldn't be my responsibility that she doesn't have her life together, but it's just so ingrained in to me to help her. i hate it.