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Jealousy

How do I deal with jealousy? I am extremely jealous over things I know I shouldn’t be... But I can’t help it. If my boy friend even says another girl looks good, I go off. It kills our relationship and that’s the last thing I want. Can anyone help? Is there anyone to talk to?

Thanks a lot,
Brittany



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Jen
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If you love your b.f. and if you have trust in him than you don't have a reason to be jealous. Remember, jealousy is not love.
 
Chrissy
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omg I have exactally the same problem ! I full go off.. but then I realize that he loves me not any other girl out there.. maybe have a chat with him and sort things out
 
Ashley
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I know exactly how you feel. my boyfriend and I are going through the same thing right now.it's horrible feeling jelouse, I hate it. I get mad just because he has girls who are his friends. the only thing I can say is to trust your guy and talk him about it. tell him if it was the othere way around and he saw you looking at othere guys how would he feel.
 
Sensations
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Hey,
I have some advice for you. I resently did some studies on jealousy! First of all, I want you to try to focus on the root of your jealousy. What goes through your head when you first start to go off? Let me give you a scenario. If you and your man are walking down the street, and he notices a very attractive woman. He makes a comment like, "wow, She looks good"! What do you do? If you start to think to yourself " oh, hell no! I can't have my man looking at another girl. She is prettier than I, and he must like her". If that's what you first think, chances are, you're insecure babygirl. What you must do is take some time out to notice the good things about YOU. Try to think of the reasons why he is yours, and that there must be a reason he is whith you. Basically, you need to learn to feel good about you. Ask your man to help by letting you know how he feels about you on a regular basis. That way, you won't feel threatened by every "pretty girl" that comes along. Now, say if you took the same scenario and this time, your first thought is "I wish he would say nice things like that about me. Or, why doesn't he show me that kind of attention". Now, is this is the case, WHOA! Sometimes our men give us a reason to be jealous. If they could have the audacity to comment on someone elses looks, and not ours, that could screw a girl up emotionally. If this is the case, I would suggest you two sit down and really talk about this. He needs to know that you need him to make you feel good once in a while. If he can notice the good looks of another girl, but doesn't even acknowledge yours, you have every right to go off. Do not allow this! Let your man know that even that you know you look good, and I'm sure you do babygirl, he needs to appreciate that. He needs to let you know it, just like he lets you know other girls look good. I've been in this situation before. I had to nip it in the bud very early in the relationship. Now, when I am with my husband, and he says something about another girl, my response is " yeah she is pretty". Or, " you're right honey, she does look nice". Well, I really hope that this advice helps regardless of which situation you are in. Please be strong, and keep ya head up!
 
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Hey, I know what you are feeling like, no doubt about that. My boyfriend and I have had our tough times but we have been together for almost 2 years now. When youre really jealous you just have to breath and think...if he didnt love me he wouldnt be with me. Sometimes it not that easy though. When me and my guy go anywhere it seems like every girl he sees he checks her out and has to make a comment about it to me EVERY time. It makes me so frustrated and it makes me feel like I want to just be like "im so sick of this all the time...i cant take this anymore, if you dont like the way I look then find someone else" but then I get my brain cells back and actually realize that it is nothing to worry about. I am the kind of person who is VERY jealous...i think its just because when I care about someone so much I dont want to share them at all. Sometimes I even get mad when he wants to spend time with his friends. I know that is really bad to say but sometimes I just wish he would spend that time with me and not his guy friends who just want him to go and drink and talk to other girls. But I know in my heart that he wouldnt cheat on me or ever do anything to hurt me. I hope that your guy is the same way. So my advice to you is to just think about the facts when you are jealous. Like I said before...if he didnt like the way you look and the way that you are and he didnt love you..than more than likely he would fiind someone else and wouldnt keep leading you on. Thats just how I feel. I hope that we (all girls) can learn to trust our guys and not be jealous. I think that all girls were born with a little jealously in them though...it has to be a proven fact..right? haha... good luck*
 
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Well, I'm sorry, but I feel different! Yeah, I agree that you should have enough confidence, and remember the reason that he is with you, but if he never opens his mouth to compliment her, or treat her like she is special on a regular basis, I can see why she would be jealous when he compliments other girls. I always say, you shouldn't go out of your way to do for someone else what you wouldn't do for the one you supposedly love. I could see how that would make a girl jealous!
 
Mae
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hi...well im a jealous type too u dont know how crazy it kills me too anyway :) u are his gf and even he looks at other girls it doesnt mean he likes her abd will drop you :) he loves you and if ur sure of that u dont need to be bothered about anything just trust him ur relationship needs it more :)
 
Natalie
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Hey, this is natalie...Everyone has friends, everyone thinks people are pretty. So what that he made a comment on a girl, my boyfriend does that too. dont get jelous... thats not the best thing you need to do... if you think he wants to be with her.... dont you think that he would leave. Hes with you for a reason, your looks, personality, your love, and many more, he just said she was good looking... he probably thinks your Georgous.... dont worrie about it.. plus... you've got him.. she doesn't.. hahah
 
rose
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Well I feel the same way,but I guess you just have to tell yourself that you are with him not that girl he is talking about.my bf is always saying stuff about other girls but he always tells me that he loves everything about me and im better than every girl in the world,thats kinda hard to beleive but I guess that is how he feels,so I dont try to get jealous I go along with it,yah sometimes it hurts bc you think to your self,"wow that girl is better than me" but the again,who is the one with the guy? thats what I do,good luck girl!!!
 


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