Don't be a hypocrite; if you're going to stay a member of the Church, then follow it's rules. If you would rather choose love over a Church with rules from the dark ages then I suggest leaving the church.

Umm... Ok not a really big problem. I use to date girls that were from church all the time. There's nothing wrong with kissing,hugging or holding hands. The only thing churches are concerned about is you two having sex. If you think this relationship is going somewhere then slowly start hinting it to your parents and if it all goes right, you two will be able to spend more time together. If not then nothing should stop you guys from loving each other, even if it means only on sundays at church. lol, and your not going to be a hypocrite so don't worry about it. For the love of god though, don't have sex and if you do use protection. Don't have kids please...
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Hey,
I think this is the absolute time for you to read some inspiring scriptures. Yeah, it is good for everyone to tell you that it is okay to kiss, hug and hold hands, but, it's nothing like inquiring in the word of God, and making your own choices that your conscience allow you too, Trust me!!! The bible is very much more than a book Ma. It is sometimes intended for council like this, only if you truly believe the what you worship is true though! So, the advice you need is scriptural babygirl! I don't believe that there is anything wrong with these things either, except sex! But determine for yourself. You will feel a whole lot more confortable, trust me. And, if you can, you two should do this together! If this means that much to yall, you WILL find a way. Good Luck!