Dear Mia:
If you really truely love this person, and she is coming to visit you 2 months? That is a good question, about asking yourself if your a lesbian or not? This person that you were hoping to see was a man, not a woman. It seems that you have a big secert to keep, and you don't want to tell anyone about this. my sugguestion is, Since she is coming out to visit tell the truth. Or find someone else that will make you much more happier.

Hey Mia!
Please listen to me carefully. You did not fall in love with this person! You fell in love with the person who she was pretending to be. I don't think that you are a lesbian. If someone could lie about those things, just think, what else could they lie about? Now you know that if you new it was a woman from the start, you probably would'nt have talked to her. Please don't force this lifestyle on yourself. I know love is a whole lot deeper, but you were not a lesbian from the start. Do you honestly think you could just be one now? I don't think it is that easy! Love is what your heart is. If this was a guy,just like before, you would like guys. I don't think you are a lesbian. I just think that you are truly confused! Just think, if this person had real love for you, I think you would have known a little sooner that he was a she. What ever your decision turns out to be, please make sure it's what YOU want, and from the heart. Good luck!!!

Everything Sensations said is exactly what I was thinking. If you fell in love with her thining she was a man...well then your not lesbian, dont think about this one just call it off because you were in love with a man, not a woman :) Nothing to be confused about here the answer is in front of you.

Im a and trust me it is hard to be with a girl with all the people that dont like gay people...but I wouldn't have it any other way, because a love with a girl (to me) is better than with a guy..i dont think you should call it off because shes a girl, you love THE person, not the sex of them. I read some other peoples comments and some say..."Oh she couldv'e lied about other things" but maybe she lied because she cared, and didn't wanna lose you. All I have to say is trust yourself and you'll find the right answer.

See I have nothing against gay people honestly... most of them are clean and stuff. I just dont believe in turning gay when your unsure, it's quite frankly stupid. I mean don't go and turn lesbian just because she loves you, you have to have the same feelings back.I also dont believe in being confused about your sexuality, I look at it as a lame excuse to try new things.So again I say choose wisely what you wanna do...

Also,
I don't think you tell a lie like that when you care about someone, I think you lie like that when you only care about YOURSELF! I'm not just saying this because she's a woman, if it were a man, I'd feel the same way. A dishonest person period!!!
And, Mia even said it herself that she told her she lied in the beginning because she wasn't looking to fall in love. In other words, she was PLAYING AROUND! Basically, she started off playing with Mia's feelings from the beginning! Guy or girl, it was wrong! And people like that usually continue playing games. That's why I say half of what I say. And I still don't think she is a lesbian. Yeah, it is true that you fall in love with the "person" not what they are, but in all actuality, our sexuality is part of who we are! She fell for who she THOUGHT this person was, and not who she really is!!!!!

Mia,
hey sweetie listen to me...Love is very powerful...but love isnt going to tell you who you are...you have to find your own self. I mean before you met this man or woman did you ever look at a woman and think she was attractive in that way? If not then chances are your not a lesbian and her coming out there will only be ackward yes she may love you very much and thats amazing but you have to find your inner self and know if you want to be with her or go out and find a man. Dont be with someone because your too nice you have to also be happy so my advice is to take some time and figure out who you are and what you want. You fell in love with the person She made up to be not her yeah she loves you but I think your love was more directed to the guy she was playing and once she comes to visit you will realize that just because she played a man doesnt make her one....

Mia,
hey sweetie listen to me...Love is very powerful...but love isnt going to tell you who you are...you have to find your own self. I mean before you met this man or woman did you ever look at a woman and think she was attractive in that way? If not then chances are your not a lesbian and her coming out there will only be ackward yes she may love you very much and thats amazing but you have to find your inner self and know if you want to be with her or go out and find a man. Dont be with someone because your too nice you have to also be happy so my advice is to take some time and figure out who you are and what you want. You fell in love with the person She made up to be not her yeah she loves you but I think your love was more directed to the guy she was playing and once she comes to visit you will realize that just because she played a man doesnt make her one....
Sincerly Kat

Hmm, the only thing I can think of is to tell her how u honestly feel about her since it seems to me like yenz r pretty close. Just because she turns out to be a female doesn't be it's not right to still love her, love can come in ne form and should be judged just because of age, sex, nationality so on and so forth. And about it not being accepted y do u have to fit in with everyone else. If she truely makes u happy then I think u should try and work things out, she was probably just scared and like u said didn't wanna tell u but now that u knew and it seems like u must wanna work things out she probably feels REALLY bad but do u think u would still be talken' to her if she said she was a lesbian? Idk this is coming from a lesbians point of view so I guess that all I can think off to help u out.. hope everything works out ok.

Hmm, the only thing I can think of is to tell her how u honestly feel about her since it seems to me like yenz r pretty close. Just because she turns out to be a female doesn't be it's not right to still love her, love can come in ne form and should be judged just because of age, sex, nationality so on and so forth. And about it not being accepted y do u have to fit in with everyone else. If she truely makes u happy then I think u should try and work things out, she was probably just scared and like u said didn't wanna tell u but now that u knew and it seems like u must wanna work things out she probably feels REALLY bad but do u think u would still be talken' to her if she said she was a lesbian? Idk this is coming from a lesbians point of view so I guess that all I can think off to help u out.. hope everything works out ok.

KEEP IT GOING! True Love Last Forever. Who care's if it is a girl or guy. Girls are better anyways. You love her and that is all that matters. Follow your heart.

lol amanda