an abortion is wrong yes but is what is worse, to have a child at 16 which ruins ur life as you cannot enjoy the rest of your youth, to have a guy who may, may not stay around, who lives far away so u cnt really take care of the baby with him. I think that theres no way u can just say havin an abortion is rong unless the reason for it being is if u just dnt want a kid, u need a good reason to have 1. but what I suggest is u come clean wit ur mom, then see her thoughts about all this, if u have an abortion, ur mom needs to know any way because I fink its law nowa days. if u keep it ur mom will be more angry for not telling her untill it was obvious. if I were you, I would come clean and hope for the best. she wont dis-own u. shes your mother and u have a child inside you. its right to tell her and to sort this situation out.

Candace,
Please, please, please think about it before you do anything. I got pregnant when I was 17 almost 18, I am now 23. I made the decision on my own with out my now husband's knowing to have an abortion. I live with that decision everyday of my life. It is horrible. It is truly the biggest mistake of my life. If you want to talk please email me at hothunnee@hotmail.com. I would love to help you work this out.

Ms Candie...U have awesome advice..UR soo good wid this stuff....I love reading what u have to say...UR great Mizz thang!! haha much love...:-) U sound like a really great person. No doubt about that. ;-)

Ms. Candi you have good points but you can't force your beliefs on her. I agree with you that abortion is not the right answer, but you can't say it is just flat out wrong. Look at it this way..what if you were to get pregnant from a rape of a close family member..what would you think about abortion then?

DO NOT have abortion. That's the worst thing that you could of tought about. It was not the baby's fault that you got pregnat. You loved that guy so much and you did that for him. I'm not saying that is your fault but you got to do some thing about it. If you tell your mom about it I know that she will understand and she will be there for you. You need to go to a doctor right away to know what you should eat so your baby can come out healthy. And you need your mother support for that. Don't pick the wrong desicion. Just do what is right for the baby's sake. If you need any body to talk to email me at
eminem_jayjay@hotmail.com
and good luck with your desicion!!!!!

Well thak u guys for the help and telling me not to go through with the decision and I told my mom and shes not all that mad about actually shes happy because she wants a baby around since im not a baby anymore and the father said that he will b there with me to take care of it and his parents arent that happy but I think that they will come around by the time the baby arrives. But thanks for you guyzez advice and now that I think of I don't think that im missing out in the future. I say that im starting my future. Thanks for the support people.

Good for you! You just made a very mature decision. Best of luck!!

If you have an abortion then I have no pity for you I hope any one who has an abortion suffers all there life thinking about how they could have killed there innocent unborn child and when you die I hope they burn in the pits of HELL.....

dont have an abortion thats just stupid you will regret it your hole life I promise that as far as you parents go you need to tell them your pregnant my parents beat the cr*p out of me for not sweeping the floor good enough but theres things that you think they will get mad about and others they will be happy about they will be grand parents they should be happy youll never know till you ask

Candace,
Personnally I feel abortion is the wrong thing to do. It is murder and you would regret it for the rest of your life. If for some reason you feel that you and the baby's dad can't provide for your baby or if you feel you are just not ready for such a big responsibility, then give the baby up for adoption. There are so many people who can't have babies that would love to give your baby lots of love and a home. May God Bless You Now And Always! Please feel free to e-mail me at: JTweetieRules@aol.com You can e-mail me anytime...I would love to hear from you! Best wishes!

First off don't let anyone tell you what you need to do, that's your own decision and no one else can make that for you. If you're willing to spend the next 18 years+ of your life caring for a child go for it. It's gonna be hard but you need to tell your mom. You cant hide it for much longer so it's gonna come up anyway. If she's a good mother I'm sure she'll yell and be disapointed in you but in the end she'll help you make the right decision for you and your family.