Hello. I just wanted to say. Do you have kids with your partner? Or does he have kids with his partner? I don't know want you expected as a comment back, but this one might come off as rough to you. But it's the truth. Why on earth would you "cheat" on your partner? Are you married with this partner? First of all, you should of considered your FAMILY and FRIENDS before you starting dating this guy. You BOTH should have considered that because now- you could potentially devastate you family. From here on out you have to consider that facts that no matter what someone will be hurt now because you can't go back and just erase the past 4 1/2 years. I think what you should do is think about what's more imporant. This man or your partner? Why did you start to cheat on your partner? Why did he? Is this only a fling? Please...I would like to help you with this. And I hope that the best comes out of it- I'll be praying for you and your family.