this sounds sad. First of all you shouldn't be dating someone who is older then you, and why are you engaged? you are 16... you are just a child! but ok i have a step dad and sometimes he can be an *SS. but my mom has always been on my side... so i can't imagine your situation... but instead of always hating him, look at his side sometimes and see where he is coming from. Also i would go straight to him and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Tell him you want things to be better for your siblings and your family. you need to be mature about it, and give him respect. You need to listen to what he said respectively without getting angry, just work out your problems. Most importantly be mature. I hope things get better for you babe! Good luck.

I'll speak with you on yahoo, i'm basically going through the same thing.

your life sure sounds sad and dis stuff wit your step dad gurl follow your heart if i was in ur possision i would go to cobs you gotta do it for urself yeh if you truely think your in love wit dis falla then do what you have to do to be wit him ,gurl all i can say is follow your heart and do what you have to do . but first i think you should sort this stuff out wit your step dad before you decide to go of wit dis guy . hope you do what you have to do gurl , hope your life gets better....

BY BABY GURL

Hey im am going threw the exzact sme thing. Mine is and *sshole too.But im only 14 so i can't move out for another 2 years. But ill tell you what my aunt told me she's like my best friend. Just deal for another year when your 17 you can leave. Just focus all your attention on leaving and what you'll do when trhey finally have no say over you. Thats what I do. I have a couple of books that I've made saying what im going to do once i turn 17. I wish you the best.

This is a sad story and I honestly have to tell you I've never been in your spot. My mother is a social worker though and sometimes I've asked her questions like "why does the wife stay with him if he abuses her? why don't the children tell on him? how can they still love him?" These are questions I've asked about random situations. Her answer to that is "sometimes they're worried bout other ppl." You're worried bout your little step sister. THIS IS IMPORTANT!!! If he does this stuff to you, what makes you think he won't do it to his daughter? This man is sick and needs help. You'll be doing your entire family a favor by going to the cops or calling a 800 number. You may not realise this at first, but you love the little girl and think about what could happen to her? or your mom? maybe your mother isn't choosing him over you, but maybe she's in the same situation and feels threatened? Theres no reason you have to live like this, especially at age 16. Also, my advice on the boyfriend thing. I'm a total stranger so you probably won't be happy with this advice. BUT...you're 16 and there is absolutely NO NEED for a fiance! or even a boyfriend! I love guys.. dont get me wrong (I'm 17 hehe) but I've learned GUYS are sooooo not evertying. YOUR life is important right now you need to get your family things situated first. please do me a favor and don't get attached to a guy soo young!! aa I've had bad situations! haha so I wish you the best of luck and if you need anything you can talk to me on yahoo :)

well guys everything came out with step and ive decided to wait on leaving til im 17 at least probably 18 everyhting got out in the open including the fiancee no they werent happt got threatened left and right they had my hardrive encrypted so they pretty much had all evidence in there face. They are allowing me and him to talk and get our lives together we must do right tho and it takes two in every relationship